The alternative path is what most choose. A path in which you conform to the norm; to live like every other person in your age bracket, family, friends and/or church. You're literally like a dead fish. You blindly follow the current's direction. When your friends get a job, you want one too, not considering the fact that you've really never wanted a white-collar job, you prefer entrepreneurship/self-employment, you move to a suburb, in a more expensive house that you can't really afford, why, because all your peers live around South B, South C, Langata, Kileleshwa etc, just because you care too much what people will say if you tell them you actually hate city life, you prefer Kiambu or Ruiru etc You make sure you're engaged by age 25, especially for the ladies, and married by 26, which now seems to be shifting to age 23 (psst....I missed that memo lol!), you take a loan to buy a liability, a car, just because all your friends are driving. Some girls will even degrade to being a side-chick/mpango wa kando, just because he'll buy your a car. News flash ladies, he's spending change on you. How about planning your finances every month and saving to start a business that will buy you the car you want and finance the lifestyle you prefer?
Another sad conformation is buying expensive gadgets like ios, which is worth 2-3 months of your salary. Honestly, I think you shouldn't be walking around with a phone worth more than your salary, and three quarters of all the stuff in your house.
Seriously why drive and/or own an ios, expensive Samsung or htc phone, while your fridge echoes when opened, you have a pathetic mattress, your pillow is literally as hard as a rock? Well the home decor changes if a girl comes into the picture for most men lol, which is often financed by life savings or overdrafts.
After marriage guys, the lady will also want an expensive honeymoon, especially the ones on Bonfire Adventures to Europe, Maldives, Malaysia, Paris to shop lol, which of course will be financed by the guy/husband, who by the way isn't a Richard Branson. There's just one problem ladies, you will come back and realize most if not all of what your m
Most people wake up after the honey moon and for those who delay, in their early 30s. They realize they've wasted their 20s pleasing other people and going with the flow like dead fish. For the married ones the boat starts rocking, and the honey turns soar after realizing they rushed to marry a person they are neither friends with, nor understand.
I'm still trying to understand my peers, but I think most people live through their 20s drunk and sober up at 30. Oh wait, I think they're just dead fish all through the 20s then the waves get tired of carrying them and kicks their asses back to sanity.
One thing I do know about my life-path is the fact that I took the diversion long ago, and no longer follow the superhighway waves that carry the dead fish. It might be a slower journey for me than that of most people, but I feel more comfortable knowing I DO NOT have to panic end month coz I live a lifestyle I can afford, I do not have to pretend to be someone I'm not and most importantly if I really have to borrow money, it's never to satisfy or buy a liability.
Make a choice today. It's not rocket science. Do you. Live your own life and let the rest live theirs!
an owns and has done for you is on loan, and if not a loan, he used up ALL his savings on you and of course his car which is always fueled Ksh. 500 bob to 1000 because it's a fuel guzzler he can't afford! A simple piece of advice men, when dating, DO NOT expose your lady to a lifestyle you know you can't maintain after marriage. If she can't love you for who you are, RUN!!!
